My brother has a 17 yo severely autistic son and a daughter with Aspergers.
There is a lengthy genetic generational history of severe autism in his wife's family.
This boy has become increasingly violent in his behaviour. He is a very tall and physically strong boy who has no control over his physicality.
He is also often sexually inappropriate and will play with himself in public.
He will hit and punch his cousins, and see this as funny. He has lost it on numerous occasions and has given his mother a black eye.
A week ago he lost it because he thought a game he was watching had ended when it was half time. He put his arm through a window severing arteries and tendons and causing nerve damage, he also put holes in the wall causing hundreds of dollars of damage.
Less than a week later he has lost it again, again smashing walls. This time for no apparent reason.
His sister hid in her room in fear, neither of his parents are physically able to stop him.
His parents are in high distress and no longer know what to do.
While I believe in tolerance and understanding, under no other circumstances would we expect people to live ongoing with this exposure to violence.
He is becoming more and more unpredictable. A lot of excuses are made and a lot of denial still with statements such as 'he would never hurt anyone' I don't believe that is true.
Other statements such as, he is sorry, saying sorry dad after the events'.
I don't believe he has the capacity to process remorse or understand the consequences of his actions, The 'I'm sorry' is a learnt reaction and won't lead to any future change in behaviour.
I am concerned for the girl with Aspergers, as she would likely have done better than she is if she wasn't daily exposed to her brothers behaviours? she has begun to mimic him and has gone backwards in her own development.
I am also scared to have my own children exposed as I know there is far too much denial,and not enough realistic appraisal of the real risks of this boys behaviours.
I don't go to family events as I don't want my children exposed to the risk.
The pressure to be understanding is at the expense of reality and understanding of the real, risk.
You can't make something that it's not, and no amount of understanding will make the unpredictable violence safe.
My brother and his wife have virtually no support as our society is also in denial about autism and the risks of child with autism who are violent.
They are at the end of what they can manage and in reality there is nowhere for them to turn and no acknowledgement of the horror they face on a daily basis.
It is a living nightmare. It is tine some real conversation happen about this issue.
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